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Oh wow- im learning but this is a new one

Her family have treated her so cruelly, that's so bad! Her younger sister saying that she would ruin things with her book. I felt for her so bad with that 😯

When you're working through things and those closest to you minimise or completely invalidate your experiences, that's for me worse than the original issue. They're then complicit in the abuse. Worse if they were there originally, it's a second denial! Or if it's the abuser themselves. It's a deeper opening of wounds, just when you're seeking solace. No matter what abuse they went through, I cannot understand or forgive that and it fractures the relationship irrevocably because it's the one time you're giving them the opportunity to be there for you a second time and they throw it in your face in favour of protecting themselves yet again ✌

They don't remember. Long term memory loss has a term

Cruelty leads the victims while the narcissist free to harm others.

I would try to step away, he would follow me.

The enabler passively goes along with the unhealthy behavior, to keep things artificially stable as you said.

Parents need to understand that when the kid is living in a house or apartment off campus, the college really has no part of what goes on with the student's living situation. The parent really needs to keep in close contact and be aware of who their kid is living with. My kid (as a junior) got a new roommate and that person from day 1 started to exhibit traits of anti-social behavior (gaslighting, demeaning, lying, not keeping agreements) and got the other new roommate to side with her. I encouraged my daughter to move out asap and she did, and got into a great situation, a healthy one and it made all the difference in the world. I disagree with what Ramani and this young man are saying about it being too scary to believe that it is not the school's fault and not the parent's fault and to believe that it is all the perpetrator's fault; because it's too scary and random if that were the case. On the contrary, the more we know of these stories, we share, we get educated, the more we can see these con artists coming a mile away. Recognizing them quickly and acting decisively is the ANSWER. It's more scary to blame other's and believe that we are powerless. WE ARE NOT. Of course he did not know what he did not know, but he knows now and is sharing his hard earned wisdom. That's what will help end this epidemic of perpetrators corrupting society at large.

Thanks for sharing your story

Im with a husband who’s very controlling, he acts like he’s my dad , he decides if i can o can’t in many aspects even little things. He always says no to everything i wanna do, like washing pillow cases and blankets… he’d say with a high tone as if i’ve done sone crime, he’d criticize if i eat and same thing if i don’t (which is more understandable). The list is long 😭

My ex husband said, I don’t owe you an apology. That’s even worse! That made sense since he always said that he was perfect. lol

The more I learn about narcissism, the more it sounds like my mother. “I’m sorry you feel that way” was a phrase she said all the time. The only time I ever got a real apology and accepting responsibility from her was when I told her I was done and was cutting contact. That apology was, of course, another manipulation to try to get me to change my mind about going no contact. And that was quite apparent when shortly after the apology, she resorted to guilt tripping. “I can’t believe you wouldn’t want to talk to your own mother” “So you really think after everything I’ve done for you, the good outweighs the bad?” After I responded with “yes” all she could say was “wow.” I’m glad I’ve gotten to a point in my life where I won’t fall for the manipulation anymore. Everything she said to convince me not to leave, and I still walked away. We haven’t spoken since. There are times when I feel sad and guilty about it, but I remind myself this is for the best and remind myself of all the pain she has caused me, and this keeps me from picking up the phone and calling her.

I suffered so many years when I was younger from abandonment issues. My younger sisters Dad (who at the time, I thought was my real Dad too from birth) stopped picking me up and just got my sister. I couldn't understand why she could go but he would always tell me, "maybe, next time". I am thankful for my Eiea (My Moms sister) for taking me in when I told her I was going to runaway (at 10) because I couldn't handle it. She promised me if I stayed, she will move back home and she would never leave me again. That summer, she came home and never left my side until she passed in 2017. The kindest soul I ever knew and now I just cope with my depression of living life without her. <3

Just finished her book. Highly recommend it.

THEY SPEAKING ON EVERY HUMAN TO EXIST

My gaslighting husband tried to convince me i was bi-bolar. So...i went to my Doc. She laughed and assured me it wasn't me.

I can't stand anxiety, i hate it. When my husband dumps loads of it my way, i walk away and give him the silent treatment. Cuz nothing i say is gonna matter. When im quiet, he rethinks the crap and comes back with a viable solution.

I never received an apology for anything, ever in my entire lifetime. No thank you's, nothing. But demands, criticisms, value judgements and everything else associated with narc abuse was there in abundance with no consideration. I'm very wary of who I assoicate with on any level. And "love"? That's the same as giving someone a loaded gun and trusting that they won't shoot you with it eventually.

Be humble, we know histories of wrong doings, by either or professionals who conned the truth. Humans are mankind capable of right or wrong.

If you have falsely imprisoned someone and get caught, won't be so funny.

Don't forget to all the self righteous who found out 25 years later that they falsely imprisoned someone who was innocent and not guilty. Sarcasim is not funny concerning narcism.

Thank you

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People who set boundaries usually say’ “I’m sorry you feel that way, and/but…”. It’s not apologetic, but more of acknowledging we’re not responsible for how others feel when we set a boundary & maintain it. We’re acknowledging their feeling is valid. Please correct if I’m wrong. Thank you If I did something wrong to another person, I would genuinely apologize and accept responsibility for my actions.

Because my father was a huge narc, lots of money, 7 children from 4 different women, i was never good enough, critized 24/7, i catch myself being overly nice to my own child, going above and beyond to make sure hes loved and valiadted, i tell him i love him everyday and smile at him, hug him, i tell him im proud of him all the time? Am i doing too much to my son?

Advice I wish someone had given me by the time I was 10: Step 1: Don't live with anyone but yourself, and be celibate (to avoid potential pregnancies, unless you live in a pro-abortion state/nation). Don't use substances, and don't gamble, even in small amounts. Step 2: Don't date anyone, don't get engaged, don't get married. Never add anyone as an authorized user on a Credit Card, and never be one, either. Never share a bank account with anyone, including your parents (including when you're a teen). Never pay a friend or relative for rent (including when over 18). Step 3: Be financially independent ASAP (if your parents offer to help, don't accept; odds are good they're narcissists). Couch-surf, stay in a vehicle/shelters, whatever. Get on welfare while you qualify for it: you paid your taxes, so you paid for those programs - it's time those programs worked for you! Get off of welfare ASAP too, but keep that in your back pocket (play by their stupid rules, and vote for politicians who've been on welfare). Don't worry about charitable giving right now - always take the standard deduction (for US taxes). When on UI/EUC benefits, don't let them take taxes out, because the way the IRS rules work (again, in the US), you'll actually qualify to get money back, not pay it, when it comes tax time, whether they took those taxes out or not. (Dummies shouldn't even ask, but they do, so say "No.") Step 4: Purchase in this order: vehicle, house, college. College comes last, not first, because that piece of paper won't get you anywhere anymore, and the instructors are being paid to say "Look it up online." Dumb, dumb, dumb! Put that last - it's too expensive to waste your meager "savings" on anymore, and you won't learn anything you can't learn online for free or with ads anyway. Step 5: Maintain this excellent lifestyle you've worked hard to build for yourself, and don't share it with anyone! Your home and your vehicle are your sanctuary away from the world, and you need and deserve that! By now, you probably have more savings than you need for "rainy days" (which do come). Keep part and invest part in CDs or other wise, slow-growing investments. Don't invest more than 1% in the stock market (you're likely to lose it all, so plan on that). Spend part on charities, and spend part on helping the homeless (if you can't pick a charity, try Hollywood Food Coalition!). Your life's maintenance costs come first, but you should have at least something to divide up and spend this way by the time you're retirement age. If not, well, then we all voted for the wrong people, and that's on all our heads. You do **not** need a spouse or kids to "be happy." If anything, all that nonsense will drain you and your finances. Especially if you were raised in a narcissistic home/family tree/etc. Don't burn your candle from both ends!

DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME. RUN. THIS IS THE BEST ADVICE YOU WILL EVER GET. TAKE IT.

Well put! Those leaders of mega-churches are incredible. There is one in particular that is just plain scary in the sense that he doesn't even wear a mask, and you can the ugly he is. I can understand how they use the church platform to exercise their narcissist self.

Gaslighting is so often defined and explained incorrectly. I need to watch this 20 more times! Thank you so much for this, Dr!

Gaslighting is so often defined and explained incorrectly. I need to watch this 20 more times! Thank you so much for this, Dr!

Thank you for mentioning the car! 😱 This just happened to me last weekend. When the car got to a safe place, I tried to get out. Of course I was manipulated into staying. Thank you for touching upon this!

Being kind to myself as I hold grey rock as hard as I can ... not at all easy ashe ups the gaslighting, baiting, attacks, etc....

Agreed !!!💯

Once i learned that my mother was using the silent treatment on me, I became determined to show her how it truly works. 4 years running and I haven't spoken to her at extended family gatherings, which is the only way I have contact with her.

Yes, I had come to that conclusion too. The positive side of it is it helps you develop inner strength through therapy, of course, if you are willing to do the work.

The overriding desire to make yourself as small as possible and not a problem for a parent is what was really behind my anorexia. The more overt part was trying to have some control over my own space, and the confusion created by advertising that says the thinner you are the more loved and happy you will be. The bottom line was to literally disappear as much as possible so as not to be a problem.

Wow wow I left my narcissistic ex last year. He made sure to turn my sisters and some of my friends to support him as the victims. I am grateful for putting my life back on track again.

Please stay silent for ever, no contact far more peace, an happiness ❤

"I'm sorry that i apparently did something to make you feel this way"

Doc, I recently ended a relationship with a narcissist, and I have a significant fear that they might learn how to apologize convincingly, making it hard for me to discern if it’s genuine. The thought of reconciliation causes me severe anxiety. Additionally, I can't stop dreaming about this person, which is becoming increasingly frustrating. Could you please explain why this might be happening and possibly make a video about it? I believe many others could benefit from understanding this situation better.😢